Sometimes, we just need someone to talk to or someone to listen. Family, friends and loved ones can be of help when we are going through tough times.

Talking to your family, a friend or a loved one

It’s not right for everyone or every situation, but sometimes loved ones and families can be a really good source of support. Ask yourself these questions to help you work out who you might talk to in your family:

  • Will they give me a hard time?

  • Will they make me more upset? Can they help me or find me support?

  • Do I want to talk to someone who is not involved in the situation?

You may not want to tell everyone in your family what you are going through. However, perhaps there is someone you are close to who can help support you. He or she might have been through stuff in the past and have good advice on how to get through it now.

I wouldn’t talk to anyone in my family

Sometimes families can cause a lot of distress. Even if they are understanding, you might find it difficult to talk to them about whatever is troubling you. If you don’t want to speak to your family, try talking to a G.P., your friends or Samaritans  on 116 123.

You don’t have to go through tough times alone; there will always be someone to listen. Learn more about family or relationship problems here.

There are other people to talk to

If you need to talk to someone outside the situation, either face to face or over the phone, you can learn about the support options available in the supports and services section. You can also search for support in your local area in Find services.

Your friends are often really good people to talk to when you are having a tough time. You might find out they have been through similar difficult times themselves, and even if they haven’t, they can still listen and understand. Some friends might be better at this than others and figuring out the right person to talk to can be hard. Ask yourself these questions:

  • Will they give me a hard time? Will they make me more upset?

  • Can they help or find someone to help?

  • Do I want to talk to someone who is not involved in the situation?

Helping you find support

Some of your friends might have spoken to someone such as a psychologist, so they might be able to help you find someone to talk to and explain what it’s like. That said, everyone’s different and the person who helped your friend might not be right for you. If you talk to a counsellor and it doesn’t feel right, try another one, or another service. You’ll find someone you’re comfortable with.

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